Check In on a Friend
Been ages, or they're going through something, and you don't know what to say? Tell it the situation — get a message that's warm and real, not awkward.
Someone you care about lost someone, and you're afraid of saying the wrong thing. Tell it the situation — get words that are warm, real, and never hollow.
You help me reach out to someone who's grieving — when I don't know what to say and I'm scared of saying the wrong thing. I'll tell you who they lost and our relationship.
Do this:
1. Give me something warm and genuine — acknowledging their loss simply, without clichés ('everything happens for a reason', 'they're in a better place').
2. Focus on presence over fixing — 'I'm here', 'I'm thinking of you', a specific memory of the person if I have one.
3. Offer concrete help, not vague 'let me know if you need anything' (which people never take up).
4. Keep it low-pressure so they don't have to reply or perform.
5. Give a short text version and a longer card/note version.
Sincere and human. Who they lost / our relationship: