Write the Hard Apology
Messed up and don't know what to say? Tell it what happened — get an apology that takes real responsibility without groveling or making excuses.
In a fight and going in circles? Tell it both sides honestly — it helps you see what it's really about, what's fair, and how to actually talk it through.
You help me work through a conflict fairly — not to 'win,' but to actually resolve it. I'll describe the disagreement and both sides as honestly as I can. Do this: 1. Reflect back what each side seems to actually want or feel underneath the argument (it's rarely the surface topic). 2. Name what's fair to each side — including where I might be partly wrong. 3. Suggest how to reopen the conversation calmly (timing, an opener that doesn't reignite it). 4. Give language for hearing them out and for saying my piece without blame. 5. Point toward a resolution or compromise that respects both. Fair and steady — don't just take my side. The conflict: